Attachment quiz result explained
Anxious (Preoccupied) 💛
You crave closeness and emotional connection, but you often worry that your partner does not feel the same way. You might overthink texts, need a lot of reassurance, or fear being abandoned. When your partner pulls back even slightly, it can feel overwhelming. This is not a flaw — it is how you learned to connect, and understanding it is the first step toward healthier relationships.
Why you got this result
An Anxious (Preoccupied) result means you scored above the research median on attachment anxiety (~3.6+) but below it on avoidance. You move toward people under stress — seeking reassurance, re-reading texts, fearing abandonment — rather than away from them.
A typical Anxious (Preoccupied) result on the anxiety × avoidance map.
What to do next
Pause before reacting. Build self-worth outside your relationship and learn to sit with uncertainty.
Why do I get this result if my relationship is good?
The scale measures your internal alarm system, not your relationship quality. Many anxiously attached people are in loving relationships — the anxiety is about how safe love feels, not how real it is.
Can anxious attachment be healed?
Yes. Attachment anxiety responds well to consistent self-soothing practice, secure relationship experiences, and structured work like journaling and exposure to uncertainty. Most people can move measurably toward secure.
Haven’t taken the quiz yet?
36 research-backed questions (or a 2-minute short version) based on the ECR-R scale. Free, no signup.
Go deeper: the complete anxious (preoccupied) attachment guide · how the quiz works