Your significant other goes out for the night. Minutes feel like hours as your mind spins with worst-case scenarios.

‍Are they going to cheat on me? Are they meeting someone else right now? I'm going to be abandoned.

‍When they finally reply, relief floods in—but it doesn’t last. Tomorrow, the same cycle begins.

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Why Gabor Maté is the most important doctor you might not had heard of

Gabor Maté is a highly-respected doctor known for his work on trauma, addiction, and mental health. He believes that many emotional and physical problems come from unmet childhood needs and early relationship wounds — what psychologists call attachment issues.

He blends science, empathy, and personal experience, helping others heal by understanding their past with compassion. We’ll dive deep into why your relationship anxiety hurts your help, according to him.

Attachment issues aren’t your fault

We are hardwired for connection - it's how we are programmed to survive. From birth, we depend on secure, loving bonds—first with caregivers and later with partners and friends.

Attachment is as essential as the air we breathe. When we sense a threat to connection, our brain triggers a fight-flight-freeze response to protect us - the same response that is triggered when our lives are threatened. These responses shape how we navigate relationships:

• Anxious attachment: Fight/flight mode, leading to hyper-vigilance and fear of rejection.
• Avoidant attachment: Freeze mode, resulting in emotional shutdown and numbing.
• Disorganized attachment: A chaotic mix of fear and withdrawal.

Fortunately - these patterns are not permanent! When growing up, your nervous system learned them in response to your environment, and it can also unlearn them.

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Why is the Nervous System related to our attachment, relationship anxiety and health?

Overthinking isn’t “just anxiety.” It’s your nervous system scanning for danger, replaying old fears, and predicting the worst to keep you safe. When we were kids, we relied on our primal instincts to keep us safe. But without intervention, these survival strategies that once protected us when we were most vulnerable now hold you back.

When you calm your nervous system, your mind follows.

When our anxious attachment is activated, our body activates fight-or-flight. It is directly related to our nervous system, stomach, hormones and more.

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Attachment patterns shape how we see the whole world (not just relationships)

Attachment patterns shape not only your relationships, but how you see the world.

It's like wearing a pair of rose-tinted, distorted glasses. So not only your romantic relationships are affected, but also your workplace relationships, friendships and family dynamics.

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Healing attachment wounds means teaching your nervous system that connection is safe.

It means changing what we associated what our nervous system knew as safe vs not safe.

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Secure relationships are the foundation of a regulated nervous system. They create the safety needed to replace old fears with trust and connection.

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At Eden, we'll teach you how to build a secure relationship with yourself and transform your relationships.

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Why anxious attachment acting up has long term health impact

When you are stressed over a long period of time — aka, having a nervous system that is stuck in fight-flight-freeze mode, it takes a deep toll on your physical and mental health.

According to Dr. Maté, chronic nervous system activation can lead to:

• Mental health challenges: Anxiety, depression, and emotional dysregulation.
• Physical health issues: High blood pressure, digestive problems, and weakened immunity.
• Autoimmune conditions: Chronic stress overworks the body’s defenses, triggering inflammation.
• Addictions: Coping mechanisms used to numb emotional overwhelm.
• Sleep disturbances: Poor rest prevents the body from restoring itself.
• Brain changes: Long-term stress affects areas responsible for memory and learning.
• Chronic illness: Emotional repression and unresolved trauma increase the risk of conditions like cancer and multiple sclerosis.

These findings underline why healing attachment is not just about improving relationships-it’s about protecting your health and well-being.

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So, how do you actually heal your attachment patterns?

So now we know, fixing relationship anxiety/insecure attachment and calming the nervous system is like, opposite sides of a coin.

Short-term benefits of healing include:

• Feeling calmer and more grounded.
• Managing anxiety with less effort.
• Building stronger, healthier connections.

Long-term benefits include:

• Reduced risk of chronic illness.
• Improved mental clarity and emotional resilience.
• A greater sense of peace and fulfillment in relationships.

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Start Feeling Less Anxious Today and Live Longer

When you heal your attachment wounds, you’re not just changing how you relate to others—you’re transforming your entire life. As Dr. Maté’s research shows, healing your nervous system gives your mind and body the space to thrive.

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How the Attached App Can Help

The Attached app makes fixing your anxious attachment easier by being the No.1 attachment-powered all-in-one app:

• Daily Quests: Unlock daily quests designed to help anxious attachment and level up
• Help Mode: Access psychology-backed tools for self-soothing when you feel triggered.
• Intelligent AI Journal: Unlock your hidden patterns and get personalized suggestions as you journal
• Weekly Insights: Eden - your relationship coach intelligently analyzes your journals and voice sessions to help break down patterns and insights

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Take the first step toward security, connection, and well-being. You deserve a life where relationships feel safe, your emotions feel manageable, and your body feels at ease. The journey starts with understanding—and ends with transformation.